By now, most of us have cast our vote.
So now what?
And will the outcome of this vote lead to the changes we want to see?
This vote is one for equality. A push for the government to legalise marriage between same sex couples in Australia.
The result of this poll informs, guides, but affects no real change.
Someone else still holds the key to a nation’s stance on acceptance.
I wholeheartedly support equal rights.
I do (pun intended).
It is a cause close to my heart.
But I also deeply feel my voting will make no real difference.
Because the real work to cultivate change in our society is not in placing a vote. The real work is in the choices we make daily. In how we accept one another. Across not only differences in sexuality, but all differences.
The real work is in the definitive actions we take that will lead to change that renders such a vote redundant.
Be the change.
So I want to ask you a simple question.
What thoughts have you had and do you hold, of those who are voting the opposite to you?
Have you thought them to be less moral than you and your own choices?
But, you say, your choice is fair. It’s just. It’s the right choice. So it’s not the same.
In the realm of spirit, there is no right or wrong. Everything is just as it is.
Love is love.
Hate is hate.
Judgement is judgement.
No matter how much or little you feel it.
As above, so below.
Injustice grows from fear. Perhaps when we feel different. When we don’t understand another choice, a different choice. We seek to feel understood. We seek other like-minded people to gather together with. And we consolidate the tribe by throwing judgement on those on the “outside”.
Have you ever uttered the words “they really shouldn’t be allowed to do that”?
What about those who don’t pick up after their canine friends at the park.
And she’s a bad mother because she feeds her child McDonald’s.
Have you ever sat with friends commenting on those frocks on the red carpet?
We joke about it. But the truth is, this judgement makes it hard for all of us to just be who we want to be.
By judging, we diminish each other’s choices.
We diminish who we are.
The same way inequality diminishes.
It’s not easy to admit, but we all hold to some varying degree, the capacity to prejudice.
We gravitate towards those who are similar. We invite in the pleasant events. We push away those who aggravate and trigger us, and situations that feel uncomfortable. Instead of looking at what is really causing us to retreat.
We, in whatever way, regain control of the situation by keeping them and those feelings separate from us. It’s how we’ve learned to feel safe again.
Exclusion based on our version of the truth.
In her research on this subject of disconnection, she identifies fear as the major driver to our compulsion to sort.
And so the way through? Courage over comfort.
While you may have voted or intend to vote yes to equality, what actions do you take each day to dissolve separation? To bring union within and without. To accept all of humanity. Not just the bits you choose to like.
However you choose to vote, I invite you to dive deeper. So that we can together create a real wave of transformation.
One that can only come from each of us looking at ourselves in the eye, and bravely acknowledging our own prejudice, and our own fears.
Will you join me to commit to healing unhealed parts of ourselves. To commit to act in accordance to your vote. To seek to understand, instead of placing judgement.
Let us create shifts to affect the collective consciousness.
Let us all move towards truly accepting each other.
This, I believe, is how we can make a real difference.
This is my vote.